THE OFTEN-HEARD: I’M SPIRITUAL BUT NOT RELIGIOUS
Have you heard people describe themselves as “spiritual
but not religious”? I’ve encountered the phrase often and in this
brief article I would like to explore the possible meanings and
implications.
I should really do a survey, asking everyone I meet who
uses this self-description what he or she means by it. Please write to
me if you are “spiritual but not religious”; your input would help all
of us understand this phenomenon. The reason I have not asked
for clarification in the past is that I’ve been afraid of making people
uncomfortable. I didn’t want to put anybody on the spot by possibly
making them feel they are being interrogated by a traditionalist and
have to defend themselves.
There are many possible meanings of this phrase, some
simple and some quite complicated, some very muddled and some very
carefully thought out, some that are mostly defensive and some that are
more critical of the available choices.
In most cases people are simply trying to say that,
“There is more to life than the material world, but I’m not prepared to
grant anything more specific than that right now”.
Thus, being “spiritual but not religious” may imply a
holding pattern until more specific beliefs are adopted. Our
spirituality is ever changing. We cannot control very well the
directions that our spirituality will take.
One very common meaning of the phrase “spiritual but
not religious” is that the speaker is searching but regards religion as
not a particularly spiritual activity these days. He or she might view
religion as consisting too much of things to do rather than things to
keep in mind or things to feel. Therefore, using this self-description
might be the same as saying that “I don’t have the time or patience for
all the ritual”.
Another possibility is that the person who describes
him or herself as “spiritual but not religious” is saying that the
non-material aspects of life that the religions do put forward are not
satisfying. For example the nature of G-d proposed by the major
religions, the way in which He acts, the views of life, death, and the
soul, are not in harmony with this individual’s sensibilities.
Therefore he or she holds an independent outlook that is based more on
personal experience, other learning, and thinking.
The person who describes himself as “spiritual but not
religious” definitely wants to keep religion at arms’ length. Religions
should take note of this and ask themselves some questions. To what
extent are the rituals integral to the religions’ goals?
Religions must separate customs from necessity and make it clear that
the former are completely optional; and if some customs are optional,
then the most-visibly affiliated must not frown on those who don’t
partake of the customs while trying to enjoy the benefits of the basic
ideas.
Religions must also ask whether their theology and
other spiritual teachings are not a bit too specific. There really is
much that we were not told and do not know. For religions to make it
appear otherwise is not right. Are the statements about G-d reasonably
abstract, as I believe they should be, or are they clothed in far too
many traditions? Are we teaching what we know about G-d, what He told
us about Himself, what we have learned from experience, or are we
teaching a very specific and misguided, almost wishful, humanized
version, assigning Him characteristics that He did not even claim or
that are not supported by our lives or history.
Why should the major religions lose all the people who
describe themselves as “spiritual but not religious”? I call it sad. I
would think religion should be able to accommodate these people for the
most part. Obviously we need to change things so that “religion” has a
better reputation. Maybe someday even the word “religion” will leave
our vocabulary and people will not have to resent some huge apparatus
that stands between them and the exercise of their most natural
spiritual tendencies.
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